HOW COULD A MARRIED, INDIAN WOMAN DO POLE DANCING?

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This blog post is a contribution from one of our SP students, Avneet! Follow her pole journey on @dancingdaiquiri

I started pole about a year ago and ever since my first trial class, I haven’t looked back.
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I saw an ad by Sydney Pole on Facebook that said try a free class, I pondered over it for a few months, the ad kept coming, I kept ignoring it but I was always intrigued by it. I kept ignoring it because I wasn’t sure what my parents would say, what my in-laws would say, what my friends back in India would say.
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The thing is, not all of us are open minded, most of us look at something, read something and the first thing we do is judge people, and I didn’t want people judging me, yes, it did bother me what people would think about me.
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Anyway, finally after months of ignoring the ad, I went for my first class and it was love at first “move”. The studio was beautiful, the teachers out of this world, and when I looked at myself in the mirror I fell in love with myself.
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A lot of people think skinny people don’t go through body shaming and I can’t begin to say how absolutely wrong they are.
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I’ve been body shamed so much, some have said I have problems, others have said I’m not normal but worst was when someone I considered a friend “jokingly” said “you’re so skinny, nobody would even want to rape you”! To that person, I hope you’re reading this and I hope you know what you made me go through. I stopped wearing clothes that would show any part of my body, I started wearing baggy clothes, I started wearing clothes twice my size, none of that helped but all through this my then boyfriend and now husband stood right next to me, holding my hand, supporting me through every decision I made (Thank you Anand, words can’t describe how lucky I am to have you).
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More than one year of pole and I can’t tell you guys how much it’s changed my life but I will write a few points:
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1. I used to have major period pains, so much that I couldn’t move. Had medicines, got all my tests done, went to every doctor possible but nothing helped. A few months after I started pole, my period pains reduced so much, I could do daily activities that I couldn’t otherwise do, I could go to work instead of taking sick leaves and life just became better
2. I have 4 pack abs. Yes! And I love to show them off cause I worked really hard for them. I’ve never felt stronger!
3. The number of friends I’ve made at Sydney Pole is amazing. When I first moved to Sydney I had no friends, nobody to talk to and then Sydney Pole happened. The teachers there are more like friends and the way everyone in the studio encourages you, helps you out, you just wonder what you did to deserve all the love
4. It’s empowering
5. It helps you with anxiety, stress, any kind of problem you’re dealing with
6. It helps you want to do better in life, helps you challenge yourself and makes you do things you never thought your body could do
7. But most of all, it makes you fall in love with yourself
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When some of my friends found out I pole they couldn’t believe it. How could a married Indian woman do pole dancing, especially cause it’s what strippers do and because it requires you to not wear clothes.
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To those “friends”, try climbing on to a pole and you’ll realise how much strength that needs, how much you need to work to get that one pole move, how hard you have to work to make sure you’re doing it right. All those pole bruises, all those muscle aches, all those extra hours of practice, if you’ve never tried, you’ll never know!
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And as far as clothes are concerned, the only way you can stick to the pole is thanks to skin contact, clothes make you slip!
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So next time you see a photo of me doing a pole move or hear someone else talk about pole, don’t think of it as something only strippers do, open Google, try to do some research, hell, go sign up for a class, maybe it will change your life like it did mine!
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Breathe in, breathe out, think what you would accomplish by judging people and then think what you’d accomplish by motivating them!
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A big hug and a big thank you to my family and friends who supported me through all my decisions and never asked me to stop. I love you guys!
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Follow me @dancingdaiquiri to see my pole progress x


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